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Marriage by Design – Week 3

marriage by design

If there is an area in which our culture has messed up God’s design for marriage, it would have to do with the permanency of marriage. And we have suffered because of it. Emotional pain, Insecurity of children and lower financial status are just a few of the byproducts of divorce.

Marriage was designed by God to be a permanent relationship. According to Jesus, it is God who does the joining of a husband and wife. “What God has joined together…” (Mark 10:9a). While the bride and groom have a significant role in the marriage ceremony, evidently God is the main player. Jesus goes on and says, “…let no one separate” (Mark 10:9b). In other words, don’t try to un-one what God has made one. A marriage begins when God joins two people together. A marriage survives when two people refuse to give up. Let’s recommit to building strong covenantal marriages where the good of the relationship takes precedence over the immediate needs of the individual.

If you missed the message last weekend from our series, Marriage by Design, you can view it below or at

Marriage by Design – Week 2

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife…” (Genesis 2:24). It’s the “leave and cleave” principle (from the KJV). It means that when two people get married there is to be a shift in family loyalty from the family-of-origin to our new immediate family. But the principle extends far beyond just the family in which we grew up. I stated it this way last weekend in the message: Marriage was designed in a way that your spouse would be your principle earthly relationship. When you marry your spouse, that relationship must supersede all others. Your spouse must become the number one priority in your life. Your spouse is to be the primary person in your life; more important than anything else. No other human being should get more of your love, energy, industry and commitment than your spouse.

If you missed the message last weekend from our series, Marriage by Design, you can view it here or at

Kyler Pittman is Getting Married

In case you haven’t heard, our son, Kyler, and his girlfriend, Nichole, recently announced their engagement. I forgot what a process it is to select just the right ring and ask at just the right time. But it’s done and there are plans to be made. We love “Niki” like a family member already and are looking forward to their wedding. They are planning to get married May 18, 2013.

You can read about Kyler’s redneck proposal on their wedding website:

Marriage Wins!

My friends Bob and Holly Warner shared this great testimony of how God restored their marriage after being divorced nineteen years. They shared their story with our Cedar Ridge family this past Sunday.

Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions for Couples

My good friend, Dale Doty, with Christian Family Institute sent me this article appearing in Associated Content, by Sally Albright suggesting that the new year is a good time for couples to be reminded of some simple but powerful ways to strengthen their relationships. To that end, she presents her Top Ten New Year’s Resolutions for Couples:

#10: Exercise Together
Exercising together as a couple can make getting more exercise fun, and you and your spouse can truly have a “healthy” relationship.
#9: Cook Together
Cooking dinner together is a great way to spend time together.
#8: Play Games Together
Take the time to have some fun with your spouse by playing games together — especially in the colder winter months.
#7: The Little Things
Sometimes, it’s the littlest of things that really matter. Something as simple as setting the coffee machine to brew in the morning or opening the car door for your spouse can really show how much you care.
#6: Get Romantic
The types of romantic gestures you do really depends on what your spouse considers to be romantic, whether it be bouquets of flowers or cuddling together and watching a football game on TV.
#5: Listening
Truly listen. Keep in mind that your spouse isn’t always in search for answers and may not want to receive advice. They just want your ears all to themselves.
#4: Fewer Arguments
Make a New Year’s resolution to argue less. Pick your battles wisely. Most importantly, learn to compromise.
#3: Compliments
Taking the time to compliment your spouse shows them that you do still love them, you appreciate them, and you still find them attractive. Surprise your loved one with compliments during appropriate times, such as when they dress up for a dinner out, do a job well done, or the way they handled your child’s misbehavior.
#2: Dates
A little alone time with your spouse can be all that you need to feel reconnected with them. Having a special date night at the end of the week can give you and your loved one something to look forward to.
#1: Saying I Love You
Say it often, say it with meaning. A simple “I Love You” can melt someone’s heart